Thursday, 8 December 2011

Spiritual | How to heal a broken heart

My sister was listening to something online yesterday and I heard a little segement of it which I wanted to share with you guys. The title of the topic on this radio show was 'how to heal a broken heart', presumably due to the pain from trials in our lives. [Note: I didn't listen to the whole thing]

Why do we have pain in our lives? Why do we lose loved ones? If Allah is Good and loves us like we are taught then why does He cause us pain?

When we are hurt we look for someone to blame or feel angry toward, sometimes people blame the situation and sometimes people blame Allah for letting that situation happen. The speaker compared that feeling of anger and looking for something to blame to an analogy of getting a vaccination.

If you think about it from a childs point of view, the child will feel anger toward the doctor for giving that injection and causing pain, they might even feel anger toward the needle which is the instrument for causing the pain. When the child is leaving the surgery the mother or father will tell the child to say thank you and the child will say thank you through gritted teeth because they're not really thankful for the doctor causing them pain.

However, when an adult who understands the reason for the vaccination they will grit their teeth and bear the pain. The thank you that they give, will be genuine because they actually do appreciate that the doctor through causing that moment of pain is keeping them healthy from an illness in the log run.

So the injection is seen as the trial in our life that causes pain and the doctor is an analogy for Allah who administers those trials in our lives. The child is someone with low imaan, someone who does not understand that the pain that they are feeling at that moment in time is actually good for them in the long run. It is a test and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. The adult is someone who understands that the trial is from Allah and is thankful to Allah because they know that Allah never burdens a soul with more than it can bear. The vaccination is painful at the time and it hurts but in the long run it is better for you.

Allah rewards us for dealing with a trial with patience, even if you're trying to be patient inshaAllah you will be rewarded for that aswell.

So when you have a trial in your life, you feel like your heart is broken and you cannot bear the pain, know that Allah is by your side and if He brings you to it, He will bring you through it. Trials and fitnas bring you closer to Allah (swt). If Allah loves a person he tests him in order to raise his ranks up. We may not always understand the trial in our life or the reason for our pain but we need to put our complete trust in Allah and remember that He is truly the best of Planners and when He takes something away from you He will replace it with something better for you.

Islam QA: What we advise you to do is to strive to make yourself be patient and keep away from corrupt thoughts and from thinking negatively about Allaah. Do not let your adherence to Islam weaken because of these thoughts. One of the most important means that will help you to achieve this is making du’aa’. Indeed, difficulties may be a means of a person making more du’aa’ to his Lord, which will open the door to much good for him. Choose the du’aa’s from the Qur’aan and Sunnah that are appropriate to seeking relief from distress, such as the prayer of Ayyoob: 

“Verily, distress has seized me, and You are the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy”

[al-Anbiya’ 21:83 – interpretation of the meaning]

Always say Alhamdulillah, even when you are in pain because a hardship is a blessing in disguise, but only if you deal with it with patience and faith.


  1. Couldn't read this at a better time..Alhamdulilah <3

  2. Mashallah Sis, that is good reminder. JazakAllah may Allah reward u for ur work.